My name is Princess Wilcoxson and I am a recovering “people pleaser”.
Growing up in church being a people pleaser came naturally for me. I grew up a PK, a preacher’s kid in case you weren’t aware of what a PK means, and staying in line was what I did. I never, ever kicked against the prick because making my parents look bad was something I wasn’t willing to do. Because of this, I never spoke up for myself, which caused me to be angry growing up. I was often times told I had an attitude problem, or I wore my feelings on my face. Looking back, I realize if I would’ve said how I really felt, I would’ve avoided a lot of heartaches. Instead, I was quiet about my feelings for some church people (which is a whole post for a whole other day), quiet about how I was treated by family, quiet about things that took place in school, and more. I was silent because I didn’t want to cause drama or have people upset at me.
Let’s fast forward twenty-something years to 2018, I knew that ish had to stop. It definitely took way to long to break myself of this “people pleasing” mentality. I became somewhat frustrated with myself over the time that I had wasted being this way. I know for sure it is some of the reason why I have suffered from anxiety and depression. The feeling of needing to make everyone happy can be cumbersome. I say all of this to say, if this is you, it has to stop. Start aiming to please your DAMN self, and nobody else. Especially if it’s someone who could give zero f**ks about you. Sorry, not sorry.
Dress: H&M/ Trench Vest: Who What Wear x Target/ Purse: Thrifted/ Shoes: Ivanka Trump/ Earrings: Thrifted
If it isn’t in YOUR best interest, keep in moving. If it’s going to disrupt your peace, keep it moving. If it’s going to take valuable time away from you, keep it MOVING! Now, getting rid of this mindset will not be an overnight thing. Like I stated above, it took me about twenty years to lose that title. But you know what, I’m the better for it. I’m happier and more carefree. Just being honest, it tries to rare its head here and there, and when it does, I immediately dismiss it.
I refuse to be that person again.